Saying no can help you reduce stress, frustration, and find time to do something you have been wanting to do.  No to that request of heading the fundraiser or going to an acquaintances’ Tupperware party. 

We often feel that turning down a request will make us seem selfish or will disappoint the other person.  So instead we spend time doing things that we really don’t want to or aren’t interested in.  Time that could be spent with family or friends, learning a new hobby, or just relaxing. 

The next time you are faced with what to commit your time to, ask yourself if this function (maybe a fundraiser) is important to your goals or values.  Also, will you dread it?  If it isn’t important or you will dread it, you might want to turn it down.

I have often heard the saying that no is a complete sentence.  That one little word is a very hard one to say though so most don’t.  If just saying no seems too harsh, you can say something like “I’d love to, but I’m just too busy right now.”   After you have done this a few times, you will see that you won’t be hated for declining politely.  You will also feel liberated-you have taken control of your schedule, are doing the things that are truly important to you and your family, and are enjoying more free time.